Trust

Insaan. The root word naseeya- meaning to forget. That's what we are. Forgetful creatures. It's the nature of each and every one of us. 

There are numerous topics which can be discussed. However, the one I have chosen relates with trust and people. All of us at the beginning have trust. Question is how many value it, treasure it and possess it? 

I'll highlight one ironic thing to you all though. We complain we cannot trust people but then we run our mouth off to others. Is there any logic in that? Either, subconsciously we actually, genuinely, really do not even realise the fact that we blurt things out to people. Completely being unaware of what we've just done, or we just thought that person does not mind, without consulting. The other reason is we do not ponder upon the consequences and do not have a care in the world. 

The fact that we are living in a time where word means nothing. Every spoken word has become extremely light. It is rare to take into consideration the impact of what we utter. Acting and speaking before thinking is the predominant behaviour in this society. 

Even if we specifically state that something is a private matter, someone or other cannot contain it and discusses it amongst themselves.

We need to evaluate and check whether there is a possibility that this is a trait within us. If that is the case, then we should inform that individual who is about to reveal something about themselves, that we are just not the right person to tell because we could be a naturally forgetful person, and just accidentally spill things without the intention of doing so. By doing this, neither person is in jeopardy:

- Betrayal of a trust does not occur

- The individual's secret is protected from being exposed

- Tension will not arise

Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “The signs of a hypocrite are three: when he speaks he lies, when he promises he breaks it, and when entrusted he betrays his trust.” [Sahih Bukhari]

Keeping trust is a vital matter which should not be taken carelessly. If we know we are unable to keep a thing  a secret then we should make it clear. 

There used to be an era where one did not have to be explicit in the conversation to say that it should not be brought up elsewhere. All Muslims could be trusted as we knew they feared accountability. Whereas, now, unfortunately we are at a time where we have to be weary of who and what we speak about to certain people due to the fear of being divulged. 

As I mentioned earlier we are forgetful beings. Thus, sometimes we may babble to the person who revealed information about themselves in the presence of others. Here, there are possibilities that it is unintentional.. Therefore, we must take the necessary precautions to be mindful of our speech at all circumstances and situations. We might think that it is not serious at all. While, on the contrary it could be in another's perspective. 

Another thing to keep in mind, is to be careful in how we act with what we have informed with. Do we indirectly hint things and as result, the company we are in, automatically know there is something going on? 

The Prophet (s) said, "If a person speaks to you and then looks around him, that was an amanah." (Hasan, al-Tirmidhi)